Happy…

Happy Friday everyone! I had a 6AM calltime and not enough time to sleep AND write this thing up last night so..here I am mid afternoon finishing up. How are you doing? How was your week of work? Was it the last? Are you ready for a little Christmas/Holiday Vaca? I know I sure as hell am. I do have one more day of work on hold next week but I can only imagine that after that the town will go dark for a few weeks for the holidays as it has done since I’ve lived out here and worked in the business. If you’re not a fan of time off during the holidays then you may be suffering from “Scrooged”. It’s a virus that affects people who are unhappy with their lives during the holidays. Instead of giving into sadness this holiday season and just sitting home why don’t you try to go find some happiness with your time off. Happiness also doesn’t mean going on some extravagant vacation or buying some lavish expensive new car for yourself. It can be something as simple as going to your favorite restaurant with a good friend and having a chat. It can be helping someone you see pushing their car out of the street because it stalled. I didn’t think this would make me happy but I actually did this last night on the way home from work. As I was pulling onto my block there was  a guy pushing his car out of a really busy intersection and so I pulled over to the side, jumped out of my car and gave him a little assistance. His face when he said thank you honestly brought me one of those small moments of happiness. Many of us seem to think that money will bring us happiness but in reality it doesn’t have to cost you a dime. I think we all seem to forget how easy it is to find small bits of happiness everywhere in our everyday lives if we are constantly looking. I had a different topic when I started this post yesterday but I like the way this one is flowing so let’s call this another F.I.F post and get into this shall we?

The older I get the more I find satisfaction in my life by embracing and trying to appreciate all the small burst of happiness that despite all the terrible shit going on in the planet or in our personal lives just continue in the world around us. A perfect example of this is laughter. I have become obsessed with laughter and laughs in general over the last couple of years as a source of happiness. I love listening to people laugh, I love making people laugh and I love laughing myself. I mean who doesn’t? Who has ever said “I don’t like laughing.”? If anyone has ever uttered those words I honestly just feel bad for them. It makes everyone feel good and fill up with joy, what’s not to like? It’s impossible to stay angry while chuckling. Go ahead try it. Next time you’re upset about something go on youtube and watch your favorite funny video and try not to crack a smile. If you don’t have a go to funny youtube video DM me and I’ll send you some of mine. Back to what I was saying about appreciating the small spouts of happiness that life offers us, this is a big one to me. I try to start everyday with a laugh and from the minute I wake up I’m in search of that first good giggle. It may come in the form of waking up with my dog Munchie all up in my face snoring or with his butt resting warmly against my head. It may be my cat Angels long deep inner meow for food that always reminds me of when Marge from The Simpsons grunts. It may be something I watch on TV as I’m getting dressed that supplies me my first snicker of the day. Point is, I search that shit out EVERY DAY! It’s like my coffee in the morning which really doesn’t make sense in my life because I don’t drink coffee like that but I know most people do.

I wasn’t always this person that looked for happiness in random places like laughter before either. Honestly I remember being quite an asshole growing up and at times I even recall being bothered by others who seemed overly happy and joyful. I know now that it was just jealousy and I’m glad I was able to recognize that flaw in myself, in my character as a person because it helped me change. Once I realized that I was just being a stubborn asshole and suppressing my own joy and happiness I was able to let go of those negative feelings. Instead of being bothered by these content people I could now join them and feed off their energy and happiness as well. Happiness and good energy from people is very infectious but you have to let yourself be infected..I mean in a good way.

Thanks for reading everyone! Sorry for the delay on the post time but sleep must always come first, I’m old! HA! I hope you all have a fantastic weekend and if this was your last day of work, ENJOY THAT SHIT!! Have a great Christmas, Hanukkah, Vacation, Adventure..whatever you have going on. Go find some happiness. Go find some laughter. Be good to one another.

-PEACE

What The Fuck Is Going On…

Happy Friday everyone! I know this post is late as all hell but while it’s been a good week life and work wise it wasn’t the best mentally for me. Nothing serious, just dealing with some big decisions that may arise next year. How was your week? Do you have any big plans for the weekend? I have 2 birthday parties so that should keep me entertained tomorrow and then Sunday is always dedicated to my favorite sport that I sadly don’t believe will survive, football. I’m not saying that it’s going to disappear anytime soon, I’m saying that I feel it’ll slowly start fading out over time. It’ll begin with less and less kids playing, then schools will probably stop supporting it and before you know it POOF! Trust me I hope I’m wrong but numbers and statistical evidence shows it is losing popularity because of not only the violence and danger of playing the sport but also with the growing studies and findings into diseases like CTE that can affect them not only during the time that they are playing but after they retire as well. The risk eventually will become too much for parents to get behind but I can be wrong what the Fuck do I know, I’m just a guy that bought a website to write a blog. Let’s get into this shall we?

I guess this may qualify as a F.I.F (Fuck It Friday) post. If you don’t read the blog often these particular post are ones that don’t necessarily deal with the Film Industry. This one somewhat does but it expands on that world even further as I want to talk about some of the recent Fuck all logic theories that seem to be going around with the growing number of sexual allegations being brought against men in all industries. First let me give you a brief history of myself before I set off on this rant.  I’m a 37-year-old Cuban-American Man. I grew up in Miami Florida as many of us Cuban Americans do. I’ve lived in Los Angeles now for 12 years. I’m single, straight and non religious. I work in the Film Industry and prior to that I was a Head Cook at a catering company. I know that’s a very light description and sounded like a dating form to some extent but now you at least know a little bit about the person writing this. SO back this shit that we have going on right now. I’m going to say right from the beginning that I believe the woman and men that have come out to speak up against these men. Yes I believe them before I believe the accused because that’s typically how I think about most crimes when they are reported. While I do believe that everyone is innocent till proven guilty that need to prove their innocence falls on the feet of the person being accused. The person being accused of the crime has to prove THEIR innocence. That’s the way it works when you’re accused of a crime. Moving on, I believe them for a few reasons but the main one being that I don’t know why they would lie. I don’t understand what they (Victim) would gain from falsely accusing someone of a crime that has the type of repercussions for the victim that this one has. Accusing someone of Sexual Misconduct has a well documented history of constantly being met by a good percentage of people not believing and questioning the victim. If you think about it, if someone accuses someone who they were robbed at gun point we never really hear anyone asking “I don’t know if I believe they robbed him, did the victim do or wear anything to suggest they wanted to be robbed?” I mean that doesn’t even sound like a good argument for his (Culprit) lawyer in court. I think in cases like this more people stand behind the victim because common sense will tell the normal logical thinking person that there’s nothing to gain from someone making up such a crime. It is only when a powerful, rich, famous, beloved men are accused of sexual wrongdoings that we question the victims intentions as well. DUMB!

“They do it to make money so they can sue them” “They do is so they can get their name in the news” are other ridiculous arguments that most will bring up when I say that they have nothing to gain. Please if anyone can name one person that sued someone for Sexual Misconduct and is now living the lavish life of wealth and riches let me know because I don’t know of any. A recent story I read on CNN and corroborated on The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, Fox provided by the Office of Compliance indicated that Congress paid out 17 Million in Settlements since the 1990’s. That’s 27 years divided by 17 Million is about a million and a half a year. If they paid off 1 person in those 27 years then yeah, that person is probably living a pretty good life out there somewhere with their 17 Mil. I mean even if they paid off 5 people over that time that would be 3.4 million a piece. I can live a pretty great life with that. However we all know very fucking well that there has been well over 5 victims. The Fox report even pointed out that the most awarded was in 2007 where they dished out more that 4 million to 25 people. That’s 160,000 a person. With that type of money I can only imagine all of them bought a private island somewhere and are living as many of us pretend we do with “No worries”. I’d also like to point out that if you have the odd thought of “Why did they settle for so little?” I don’t know much about these victims but if any of them are just your average income making american 160 grand may be a whole lot of money to that person. Not to mention that financially most these victims cannot afford to stand up to someone who’s rich as Fuck in court. Eventually they are going to run out of money and have to settle. So those of you that use this as an excuse, your money-making half-baked scheme theory has some problems holding up to once again what usually takes down all these bullshit theories, facts. Fame, they do it to get famous or get their name in the news. This is yet again another dumb fucking theory. This one is dumb on another level because who in the Fuck wants to be famously known as the victim of someone jerking off in front of them? Who wants to be famous for accusing someone of raping them? Who wants to go and do endless interviews about getting groped and kissed without consent and having to pretend to break down in tears every time? Who wants the social backlash, trolling, hate mail, strange looks and pointing in public and all the other shit that victims that accuse people of this crime suffer through? WHO? Do you? Does anyone you know or ever known sound like they would use this as a platform to spring their career into stardom? If you do you should seek help for that person or yourself because you are a fucked up human being my friend.

“Why did they wait so long?” WHO THE FUCK CARES??? Why is this even a question that anyone would ask? There is no time-table in which one needs to report a crime. Plus and I never get tired of bringing up this should be obvious point, unless you have been in the same situation and acted different your opinion of what they should have done and when is subjective and based on your vision of what you FEEL you would do in that situation. There is no way that you can feel the fear, horror, stress and everything else these victims go through to make any type of correct assessment of how you would act put in the same situation. I would like to think that if a well-known millionaire grabbed my dick at a party that I would whoop his ass and sue him but since I’ve never been in the situation I can’t say how that’s how it would go down. I know a younger version of me would take a beer bottle to his head but adult me knows that then he can sue me. If act violently then the lines get blurrier when we get to any legal action. I know very well that a good majority of men that I know if were ever say raped in a parking lot going to their car would without a shadow of a doubt NEVER report that crime to anyone let alone any type of law enforcement. Most the men I know are prideful as hell and they would never put themselves through the humility they imagine they would feel in reporting that something like that happen. If you know men like this or are a man yourself that can relate then how can you honestly question someone who comes out against these crimes. I’ve never been a victim of such a crime and I know I can NEVER understand what these people go through and that’s why I listen to them and professionals that have studied and dedicated their lives to helping these victims. The bravery and guts it takes to stand in front of millions and accuse someone of this shit knowing that millions potentially will not believe you is nothing short of amazing to me. That is fucking badass. That is fucking empowering. That is what I’ve always thought we as people should aspire to be. How can any of stand here and not believe them? All our lives we are taught to go to those in charge of protecting us when we are in trouble. Think about if when you went to those people who you trust and are supposed to protect you instead question your honesty.

Thanks for stopping by and checking out another post here at We’re Not Rolling. I hope you all have a fantastic weekend. Be good to one another.

-PEACE

 

My Social Space…

Hello everybody! Welcome to We’re Not Rolling. I’m your want to be, trying to be…writer. I was wondering the other day does anyone ever come up to you and declare you a writer? Do you just declare yourself one? Or is it only official once you get paid for your stuff? Fuck if I know. HA! Continue reading “My Social Space…”