Hello! Welcome to We’re Not Rolling and an all New post because that’s what happens here on Tuesdays…except for last Tuesday but you guys know the story behind that. How is everyone doing? Did you have a nice long Labor Day weekend? I had a pretty epic time, I would go on about it but I already did on yesterdays Podcast. Wink wink, go check it out! HA! It was hot as shit the last couple days out here in LA but it seems to be cooling down. Well hot for Los Angeles anyway, the heat is still not as terrible as the humid heat in Florida. Actually I just looked it up and the weather report says it’ll be in the high 70s to 80s the next few days so let me not speak too soon. I’m over summer, I’m ready to have to put on a hoodie to walk the dog in the early morning hours. I wish it was like Game of Thrones where they had winters for years at a time Hahahaha! I’m sure there is very few people who share that sentiment. I find that most people hate winter. Alright, let’s get into this shall we?
My A.D, my B.G, my crew, my crafty person, my, my, my everything is a saying that has bugged me for quite some time now. It reminds me of those damn seagulls in Finding Nemo hence the title. Aren’t I clever? I even found a gif to feature incase you didn’t get the reference. I don’t know why I feel this way and I would admit that maybe it might just be my crazy mind but every time I hear anyone say it I cringe. Actually I remember working with one AD back in the day that was also bothered by the term but he was bothered by it because someone would refer to say the BG as “My BG” and the AD thought they were not theirs but his/hers. Now that I think about that it even goes further to show how misused the phrase is because it is often used as saying that something or in this case someone is theirs. Which is bullshit because no one owns anyone. Hell it even sound strange if the producers say “My crew” because unless your paying them it’s probably a big ass Studio behind the payroll. So technically the person paying everyone is the only persons that should be allowed to use the term “my (whatever)”. I’m just saying if you’re someone who says this often you may want to check how it’s coming across because say it to the wrong person and they may get offended. That’s not me, I’m not offended by it just bothered. I find it very odd and impossible for me to say.
However there is always two sides to everything so I will say that there is a proper time to refer to someone as “My …” and that’s if you’re taking responsibility for them. An example of this is if you’re the 2nd 2nd AD and you tell your PAs to do something and they get in trouble for it then yes “My PAs” is perfectly ok to use because you are standing up for the people you’re in charge of. If you’re joking around with the term that is also alright. Say you see someone turn up on a show that you work full-time on you might say something like “How’d you get on my show?” I don’t have a problem with any of these and one can clearly make the distinction of how “My” is being used during each situation when you hear it used in context. I’m just simply pointing out that those lines are being blurred. I don’t think anyone should say it period but hey that’s just me.
Personally I have never been able to say “My” anything just because I have traumatized myself by hearing other people use it that I have totally erased the phrase from my mind. It’s not only because I know I don’t own any of this but also because I don’t WANT to own any of it. I want to be responsible for myself and that’s it. What can I tell you, I’m just strange that way alright. I know that trivial shit like this shouldn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things but this is where I’m able to explore and talk about all these odd thoughts and feelings that I have about working in the industry no matter how small or insignificant they may seem. I guarantee that most people never even think about shit like this but that’s part of the fun about bringing up the conversations. Sadly it’s always a one-sided conversation as I get no responses to my post but that’s alright.
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